According to Paulo Coelho, “With love, there are no rules. The heart decides and what it decides is all that really matters.”
When it comes to love,
There are no rules
No lines to draw
Love is what conquers it all.
Love is the best feeling in the world.
Those of you who have already fallen in love will agree that we can’t set any rules in love.
You can never fully love someone when you are tied by rules.
When you love someone you let your heart be your guide and let it decide everything that you do.
Love is natural. It’s not abided by any rules. Its spontaneity is its beauty.
Don’t try to suppress your emotions by following any guide about love.
Also don’t envy others love life.
Everyone’s relationship is different what works for you might not work for someone else and vice versa.
Love is a beautiful feeling; don’t let it go wasted by following any one’s advice. “Don’t show you are interested in him,” “don’t appear too much desperate.” Don’t do this and don’t do that.”
For God’s sake there are is no manuscript to follow or blueprint to falling in love.
If you control your emotions too much or your natural urges, chances are, time will slip away quickly and all you will be left with is regret.
Following are some of the distinctions that set love apart from relationships.
Easy to forgive and forget in love
When one is in love it’s easy to forgive and forget, however since relationships are based on personal needs, it’s harder to forgive.
Love is spontaneous while relationships are pre- planned
When you start a relationship you often discuss with your partner regarding the dos and don’ts of your relationship. You tell your expectations, make certain vows. There’s no excitement since everything is pre-planned. You don’t experience that ‘your heart forgets to beat moment,’ since whatever happens in your relationship is preplanned.
When your lover does the most unexpected things which you didn’t even think of in your wildest dreams, you will surely experience the adrenaline-rush.
That’s the beauty of love nothing is planned, love is spontaneous you do everything that your heart commands you to do, which makes love the most exciting feeling in the world.
You let love be your guide not rules
Since everything is pre-decided when it comes to relationship, it becomes more of a duty, a drag. But when you are in love, the excitement never ends as you never know what’s going to come next which keeps the spark alive.
You feel love when your soul is free
Freedom only exists when love is present. The person who gives himself/herself wholly without any obligation, the person who feels freest, is the person who loves with full of heart. The only duty a lover has towards his beloved is to love freely, wholeheartedly.
A person who loves wholeheartedly feels free while a person in a relationship feels bounded, caged and fear to fulfill his partner’s expectations.
Love is selfless, relationships are selfish
A person who is in love does everything to make his/her lover happy. The person’s love is selfless, and he/she put the lover’s needs first even if it means putting aside his/her own happiness.
While relationships are selfish, each of the partner’s focus is to only get their needs fulfilled despite other person’s needs.