We all know watching porn is unhealthy
But what exactly is pornography?
According to Merriam Webster dictionary, “Material (such as books or a photograph) that depicts erotic behavior and is intended to cause sexual excitement is defined as pornography.”
If a person continues watching it chances are he/she can turn into an addict.
No wonder currently pornography is a million dollar industry.
It has become more accessible now since everyone has the ‘Internet’ available.
It’s easily available, easy to save and can be kept private without anyone knowing about it.
But wait did you know watching porn could destroy your marriage too?
According to a Psychologist and Certified Sex Therapist, Dr. Barbara Winter in Boca Raton, Florida, states, “A gradual or marked move into cyberspace has to take away from something, and it typically is the attachment in the marriage and/or the family. This detachment results in a reach for something else, such as porn, to soothe or balance one’s emotional state.”
She further adds, “The marriage becomes neglected. Partners become lonely, isolated and betrayed.”
Signs that pornography is damaging your relationship
Rough and more violent sex
If a husband is a porn addict the wife will notice an increase in the frequency of sex and progression to rougher and even violent sex.
Higher expectations leading to disappointments
The husband who is now a porn addict will expect the same demonstration from his wife. He fails to realize porn artists are paid to carry out certain acts and fake orgasms. He is a master in the art, while the wife is just learning the ropes. And if the wife fails to deliver as his expectation the husband will be highly disappointed. He might even turn violent against the wife.
The art of love making involves two partners. It shouldn’t focus only one partner’s sexual gratification.
Both partners need to respect each other’s needs. If a husband is only focused on his sexual gratification chances are his addiction to pornography is damaging your relationship.
Porn tends to put a seed of lust in a person’s soul which makes him blinded to his partner and her needs.
Not everything that’s shown in porn movies is real, all the drama is created in the movies is to arouse the person’s senses and make him fantasize about things that aren’t real rather created in a way to make them appear real.
The bitter reality is those porn stars are paid to act, they do everything for money, there’s no love involved and no real intimacy.
Search for an alternative
Out of their desperation to fulfill their unnatural sexual needs they don’t even hesitate to restore to someone else to have sex.
The lustful hunger could be so strong that before you know he would end up with a prostitute or even a house help in your absence.
In many cases these men have relationship outside their marriage too; they have special female friends from office or social media who share their lustful hunger.
Less sex with partner
Since the husband finds his wife cold and disappointing on bed and he is already having fun with his special friends, he isn’t much willing to have sex with his wife. This disconnection from wife can even lead to divorce in extreme cases.
Dominating the other partner
The husband starts to dominate you in bed. He forces you to act like those porn stars to please his senses and end up hurting your pride. The hurt isn’t necessarily physically but it shatters you emotionally. It makes you feel guilty that you are not good enough for him.
On the other hand what these porn addicts fail to realize is they don’t need porn to enjoy sex with their partner. All they need to do is develop great understanding with their spouse so that they can guide their spouse how they like it in bed; where to hold, touch or how they would they reach their orgasm.