The phrase “tie the knot” is widely known and used. It means to get married. Some say it means to tie the tongue to the words spoken at the altar. Some say it had to do with the knots in newly weds mattress. But what is I ask is, what is this knot tying; two hearts together or ensnaring one neck into a deadly trap. It might as well be the latter of you’re not careful.
Perfect people don’t exist. A perfect relationship does not exist, and above all a perfect life doesn’t exist at least not in this world.
The honeymoon phase does not last forever, SNAP OUT IF IT. And start looking for the signs which will make or break the deal.
“The most important thing about goals is… having one!”
Having a serious attitude in life will indicate his seriousness towards his relationship too. Sometimes some people have a non-serious attitude in life, they keep on changing tracks, going round and round in circles, never truly sure of what they actually want in life. They are confused beings. This is a major red flag. Surely, you can’t marry someone who isn’t ready for a commitment or taking up a huge responsibility of a marriage. Marriage with this guy is a big no no.
The Pressure Cooker
It’s easy to put on your best smile when everything is going as planned, but hey, this is life, anything can go wrong unexpectedly. Try to take note of how he reacts in tough situations such as when he has a pressing deadline to meet or when he is stuck in a traffic jam. Can he keep his cool or tough situations can provoke him easily.
“If it is important to you, you will find a way. If not, you will find an excuse.”
Not advising you all ladies to become dramatic lunatics, but what I will say is the way he treats you now, says a lot about your future. Does he lose interest in you often? Not letting you complete your story because he has another one of his to boast about?
Pretending to pay attention just so you can finish and stop talking? Ding, ding, ding ladies.
The Insecure Bitch
Does he get jealous when you so much as glance at another guy? Does he frequently ask you questions like, “Do you love me?” Does he always fish for compliments? Does he need constant assurance of if you find him attractive and you won’t ever leave him? Then when you assure him that you do find him attractive, he doesn’t believe you and call you a liar. The last thing you want to do is settle down with an insecure guy like him, he will fill your life with uncertainties and insecurities.
“A person who never learned to trust, confuses intensity with intimacy, obsession with care and control with security.”
When you tell him about your goals in life, does he support and motivate you? Or does he belittle you and feel threatened by your big ambitions in life? If he makes you feel suffocated then it’s about time to spread your wings and fly, far away from him.
“If we lose love and self-respect for each other, this how we finally die.”
Does he respect you enough? Does he value your opinion or ask for your advice in matters that are important to him? When you offer an opinion does he take it seriously or is he sarcastic or act as if he doesn’t need it? Do you feel you are heard and have a say in his matters? When it comes to marrying a right guy always choose a man who treats you as his equal, always choose a future spouse who will respect you for who you are, rather than forcing you to act or look in a certain way around him to feel loved or accepted.
“Life only comes around once, so do whatever makes you happy, and be with whoever makes you smile. “
This is the best indicator for knowing if he is the Mr. Right for you. Ask yourself does he make you happy? Do you look forward to spending your time with him, or do you dread his anger? Does he make you feel comfortable and let you open up to the point that you can talk about just anything in the world without being judged. If he builds you, brings out your best qualities, make you feel complete because he is a part of your life, then trust me he is the one for you, if you happen to meet someone like him then don’t ever let go of him.
“We can’t direct the wind, but we can adjust the sails.”